NOURISHED WITH CONNIE CHAPMAN

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Connie Chapman is a Life Coach,  Speaker and Writer empowering big dreamers and soul seekers to create lives they love. Connie is also the host of the top ranking podcast Awaken Radio, which shares heart-felt conversations and inspiring interviews with experts and thought leaders from all over the world.

Known    for    her    authentic,    honest    and    soulful    approach,   Connie's transformative work is all about re-connecting with your heart and inner wisdom,  embodying more peace,  creating a mind set that empowers you, and learning to truly accept and value yourself. 

During this intimate conversation, Connie draws on her own life experience and shares so much food for though. We discuss:

+ Connie's disconnection from self in her 20's and how she transitioned into awareness

+ Filling up your cup from the inside out, rather than using external wellness tools

+ The importance of giving yourself space to absorb and connect to stillness, and how to apply this when in a new relationship

+ Recognising self-sabotage patterns in yourself, how childhood trauma plays its part and Connie's tips to breakthrough

+ Stopping the glorification of busy-ness in order to feel what you need to feel and our relationship with discomfort

Find out more about this goddess at: www.conniechapman.com

Thank you so much for listening!

I'd love to know ONE thing you're taking away from episode in the comments below.

In love and gratitude

          

SAYING GOODBYE CAN BE BEAUTIFUL: SOME REFLECTIONS ON SOFTENING

We've all been there. The relationship we'd outgrown a long time ago. The friendship that no longer feels in alignment. The job that feels toxic from the moment we walk in the door. We stay, we hold on, we meditate or pray - hoping that some key piece of the puzzle will magically fall in to place. If it did, it would somehow justify everything we'd been through.

The other day, I came across a photo of myself from about 18 months ago, and could not recognise the woman staring back at me. The look in my eyes, the strained smile, both hid (somewhat ineffectively) the sadness in my heart at not living or speaking my truth. A life of playing small, doing whatever I could to 'make things work' and absolutely betraying every whisper of my intuition. Until one day, I took the big step - and left that life.

Fast forward to now, where one of my dating adventures has come to an abrupt end. After four magical and passion fuelled weeks, things began to take a strange turn and I was asked to once again accept less than what I deserved. That old incarnation of me wanted so much to take it, to feast on scraps as I had become accustomed. However, this time, I said goodbye - even before I was ready to. This time, I knew to listen to the flashing red warning signs and the fact that this person was not ready to accept me entirely as I am.

Here's my radical realisation - I could feed into stories of abandonment in my head. Of feeling as though I had done something wrong, once again. Or, sit on the couch eating peanut butter ice cream and watch Netflix through streaming tears. Rather than pull out my Alanis Morissette albums or swear never to date again, I allowed myself to feel what I needed to feel. I went through a period of grieving what could have been, and then - I softened.

I've recently come across the concept of softening being a sign of spiritual maturity. Softening around the harsh edges. I thanked this man for inviting a feeling of love into my life that I had not experienced since my ex husband. I expressed gratitude for the good times that we had shared. We promised to always be there for each other, as we not only had mutual friends but lived close by to one another. This doesn't mean being in constant contact or holding out hope that something may change.

It's been a beautiful experience to honour myself, and to honour what transpired between us - with grace. If you're needing to say goodbye to something or someone, listen to your heart. However, rather than lash out and drag everyone around you down, soften into what you're grateful for about the experience. You don't have to tell the person directly, it could even be in a letter that remains unsent. It's amazing how much less stress it involves and clears the path for what a new day may bring into your life. The very definition of mindfulness in action.

Yours in softness

                                             

SLEEP YOUR WAY TO WELLNESS

NB: THE OPINIONS EXPRESSED HERE ARE MY OWN, AND I AM NOT PAID NOR ENDORSED BY ANY OF THE BRANDS ABOVE

NB: THE OPINIONS EXPRESSED HERE ARE MY OWN, AND I AM NOT PAID NOR ENDORSED BY ANY OF THE BRANDS ABOVE

A deep, restful night's sleep is a powerful productivity tool, key to any self care practice and a natural mood enhancer. However, if it becomes increasingly elusive, it can be the source of a lot of stress, anxiety and dis-ease in the body. As our modern life places more and more demands on our nervous system, with access to information 24/7, lack of sleep and it's overall quality is becoming a common complaint. Amongst my own Wellness Coaching clients, it's a major cause of concern and a trickles into every other facet of their lives.

Personally speaking, I'm an incredibly light sleeper - the slightest noise from the local wildlife in my area or garbage truck wakes me up. The worst time for me is 3-4am. If I wake up at this witching hour, it's unlikely I'll get back to sleep until 5am, which is when I usually get up in any case. This in turn causes me to lie there, with thoughts looping around and become increasingly frustrated! My sleep quality drastically suffered when I first separated from my ex husband. The huge life changes and no longer having a warm body in the bed next to me meant that I was tired and drained all the time. 3am became an hour I learned to habitually dread.

It's no secret I'm a huge advocate of morning routine's as a way of powerfully starting your day. However this struggle with sleep has encouraged me to create my own night time ritual, and the difference it has made is truly life changing. This is in no small part because it's simple, effective and easy to implement - the three pillars of healthy and sustainable change. Take what resonates with you, leave behind what doesn't and even try implementing one or two of the tips below at a time.

My night time ritual:

1. Mighty Magnesium - One hour before going to sleep, I take 1 magnesium tablet. This complex promotes muscle relaxation, helps nervous tension and mild anxiety. As such, it's incredibly conducive to helping you not only fall but stay asleep.

2. Digital Detox - This hour prior to sleep is then dedicated to calming down my nervous system. My phone is switched to night mode and my laptop is shut down for the day. I also dim the lights in my bedroom and turn on my salt lamp, which assists with our circadian rhythms (the bodies biological clock). I might turn on some meditation music, or read my book - anything that calms my mind and doesn't involve a screen emitting blue light on my face!

3. Tea Time - Whilst I'm winding down, I make myself a cup of Evening Tea. There are plenty of brands that make a herbal blend to promote relaxation, and this particular one is made up of Lemon Balm, Fennel, Chamomile, Lime Tree, Peppermint and Lavender. It never ceases to amaze me how half way through the cup, each time, my eye lids begin to droop!

4. Lavender Love - This is the newest addition to my ritual, and it makes me feel so incredibly nourished. I place 1 drop of Lavender oil on the soles of my feet, the middle of my chest, my temples and finally on my pillow. Touching my body in this way, slowly and lovingly rubbing the oil in, really encourages deep feelings of self care. We often underestimate the power of smell, and I'm quickly realising that my body now associates the oil with the thought 'lights out!'.

Since incorporating this ritual in my life, I've noticed that I now not only stay asleep, but the quality is so much deeper. As a business owner, I love what I do and who I serve - but like all of us, my average day pulls me twenty different directions! Dedicating this last hour to stillness and softness means that I am falling asleep with a gentle smile on my face, rather than allowing my mind to pull me into stories of the past or future.

Here's to you taking some time out this evening and creating a ritual of your very own. I'd LOVE to hear from you in the comments below - what's 1 tool that you'll be trying out tonight?

Inspire a soul sister to create a ritual of their own, press share below xo

In love and gratitude

                      

NOURISHED WITH CHEF SHINE

"YOU DESERVE TO FIND WHAT LIGHTS YOU UP, FROM THE INSIDE OUT."

Chef Danielle Shine is a Natural Foods Chef, Hay House author, TV presenter,  health coach and yoga teacher - my kinda woman!

She worked for many years in the fast-paced world of international fashion and entertainment PR in London. Although she loved her job it didn’t love her back – extremely long hours coupled with never ending demanding projects caused Danielle to fall out of tune with herself and her body.  

Over the course of a couple of years, Danielle re-modelled herself from the inside out, emerging as a healthier, happier, more mindful and passionate human being. 

She lives between London, New York and Sydney cooking her way down a path more purposeful and joyous.   

During this intimate conversation, Danielle draws on her own life experience as a wife and business woman about to launch her first book. We discuss:

+ Why women fall out of tune with their bodies

+ Following your intuition on your journey, even when loved ones disagree

+ Busting the myth between self-ishness and self-lessness, and softening those feelings of guilt

+ Chef Shine's personal self-care rituals - that are non negotiable!

+ 'Upper limit problems' and why we have feelings of not being worthy

+ Looking at who surrounds you and deciding whether their company nourishes you... or not

+ Why our gut health is directly related to our emotions

+ How to make natural food simple and easy

For great recipes and inspiration on conscious living, visit her online home: http://danielleshine.com/

Thank you so much for listening!

I'd love to know ONE thing you're taking away from episode in the comments below.

In love and gratitude

             

    HAVE YOU EVER DATED YOURSELF...? (AND WHY IT'S MY NEW THING)

    Thursday night has become sacred in my calendar. No clients. No social engagements. No technology. It has become the night that I date myself AKA #solodatenight

    This new ritual was created out of the fact that I give of myself so much on a daily basis (as many of us feminine, nurturing types do) and felt that there was no space in the week to be with myself.

    We've become so accustomed to filling up every single inch of our lives, with no breathing space to allow everything to integrate. As a woman going through a divorce, I also discovered that I was running away from feelings that I didn't particularly want to feel. Spending this 'quality time' alone has allowed the harsh edges to soften and heal.

    As I've become so vocal and passionate about this night across social media, I'm often asked by my clients for examples of what to do when you date yourself! 

    Might I suggest that you:

    • Read that book you've heard so much about and create a sanctuary around the experience. Pictured above is one of my very first solo date nights on a cool Spring evening last year. 
    • Go to the movies and watch something that lifts you up or allows you to indulge in a part of yourself that rarely gets a chance to play. I went to see 'Fifty Shades of Gray' this Valentine's Day, and had an absolute blast!
    • Turn your bathroom into a day spa and put on a face mask, exfoliate every inch, do your own mani/pedi or put a nourishing treatment in your hair. Personally, it feels like an exercise in self-love to do it this way, and connect with your own body - rather than paying someone else to do it.
    • Treat yourself to that cafe or restaurant you've been dying to try. Dates can also be a daytime activity of course! I've explored dining in and enjoying eating my lunch in peace whilst people watching, or taking away and having a picnic on the beach.
    • Soak in some culture at your local art gallery and wander the aisles as a practice in mindfulness. Absorb yourself in the moment, the painting, the colours and you.
    • Combine dating and wellness with a bush walk and connect to nature, especially if you're in an office all day. Search for the 'must do' walks of your city - I've often discovered coves, bays and forests I never even knew existed!
    • Go to a concert - alone. We're often afraid of venturing out at night to an event without a partner or friend. I recently went to a Deva Premal concert solo, and found it a liberating experience. Sushi dinner beforehand, followed by her stunning voice was simply divine. The concert ran a little too late for me, and I was able to leave when I wanted, without upsetting anyone!

    Single ladies: think of all the things you've always wanted to do with a partner, and do them solo.

    Loved up ladies: take some time away from your beloved to connect back to your essence. Your partner will find you all the more attractive for doing so!

    Let the limitations die around always needing to take care of something or someone else. Feelings of guilt will inevitably arise. You may be tempted to listen to them and put this email in the 'too hard' folder. But don't. Space is true medicine for the heart and solo date nights are such a juicy way to fill up your own cup. To serve from a place of being full, rather than empty and resentful. 

    In love and gratitude

                                       

    THE BEST SELF-HELP IS SELF-COMPASSION [AN EVENING WITH DANIELLE LAPORTE]

    As Danielle LaPorte, author of 'The Desire Map' and all round spiritual bad ass, walked on to the stage in Sydney last week - I couldn't help but notice her shoes. Not only were they edgy and elegant (two words I would also use to describe her), she used them to walk around with such infectious confidence and purpose. It was as though they would come to form the very foundation of her building for the night - and it began with the word 'hungry'. She opened by asking us, her audience, what we were hungry for. One woman responded "conscious men". I couldn't agree more...

    One of the reasons this woman has become a mentor and spirit animal to me in equal parts is her raw authenticity, matched with practicality. Early on she warned us against keeping laundry lists of self-help tools that we needed to purchase and hide behind. Furthermore, she confessed her reliance in the past on placing too much power in the hands of 'gurus', having sat at the feet of many monks and shamans. It's long been a concern of mine how in the wellness/personal development space there is an over reliance on external approaches such as juicing, colonics, and apps to cover up other addictions. Danielle invited us to pay more attention to our why, rather than who we are trying to please. She summarised beautifully the never ending quest we seem to be on with one of my favourite quotes of the evening:

    "The best self-help is self-compassion"

    Her talk then took a turn into breaking open two great lies that we are facing as conscious women:

    1. The Lie of Inadequacy

    Both Danielle and I were born and raised as Catholic school girls, so I really related to her referring to original sin as a ridiculous concept, when in fact we are all an original blessing. As such, from the time we are children who come to believe that they are inadequate, a strain of self-hatred runs through everything. This would certainly explain why when I left high school, I spent many years treating myself worse than I would anyone else! Danielle referred to a summit where many spiritual leaders attended, including the Dalai Lama. Meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg asked His Holiness about self-hatred, and after a long discussion with the translator, really struggled to understand the concept and responded with "what is that?". 

    I feel that many of my friends and clients (ok, myself included) feel this inadequacy so much at times, that we give our power away often to someone who seemingly knows what is best for us: the media, bosses, partners. Her advice to combat this? It's never about the teacher, it's about resonance. Never allow someone else to make you feel less than, and begin by placing much more value on your own brilliance and worth.

    2. The Lie of Affiliation

    I've never been a huge believer or supporter of interventions in front of hundreds of people as a method to coach or bring about true healing in people's lives. It's true, I run events such as my upcoming talk The Nourished Woman, where women have the chance to ask questions of me and engage in group discussion. I make it my aim to ensure that no one ever feels pressured to share more than they'd like to or before they're ready. Danielle confirmed what I believe to be true: some wounds are meant to be shared in a safe and sacred space. Coercion and peer pressure have no place in spiritual work.

    A few years ago, I attended a weekend workshop that promised to 'change my life and make me a millionaire'. The days were long, the speaker a seemingly charismatic Australian businessman who pressured and prodded everyone present and managed to get all of us to break down at least once. By the end of the weekend, I was excommunicated from the 'group', because I didn't want to pay $8k for a 1 week retreat that would 'change my life and make me a millionaire'. I believe it is this sort of experience Danielle was referring to when she said that "We have to get through some lies to get to our truth. We have become excessively tolerant, foolishly compassionate and stick things out way too long".

    The key to taking charge of this lie is boundaries. By standing up for ourselves, even when we feel we want to die, we are rooted in self-compassion. It's also a concept that is over talked about and underused. 

    The juiciest part of the evening is when she opened up the floor for a Q&A session.

    I've summarised into #truthbombs the nuggets of wisdom that flowed freely from this brilliant mind:

    The State of the Planet:

    The more awake and mindful you become, the more pain you feel.

    Spiritual activism is a commitment to being informed.

    Share your truth on a regular basis. 

    Silence makes us complicit.

    Tough Conversations: 

    The boss ain't always right, but the boss is boss.

    Give the person a 'shit sandwich': "I love you, you f***ed up, I love you".

    Betrayal:

    Silence equals self-betrayal.

    Don't allow it to mess with your self trust.

    Guiding Young Women:

    Talk openly to young teens about sex and their bodies.

    Watch the documentary Embrace with the young women in your lives. 

    How Does Love Reward the Brave:

    Love is the cousin of generosity.

    It feels erotic to give. 

    Goals With Soul:

    Get clear on how you want to feel.

    Avoid core desired feelings that rely on other people making you feel that way e.g. adored, honoured, supported.

    Calling Your Power Back:

    Detox from the life of authority.

    Have a real relationship with your spirituality.

    Leave the things you are devoted to to really find out what you're devoted to.

    Innocence:

    Narcissism is a disease from lack of self-worth.

    Unbotherability is the fruit of the spirit.

    Forgiveness (my favourite one):

    It will set you free.

    Forced forgiveness derails your healing process.

    Be grateful that they shat on you, and be especially grateful for your strength in the situation.

    How to Forgive When You're Not Ready:

    1. Admit that you don't want to forgive, you'd rather be right.

    2. Forgive yourself for not wanting to.

    3. See what happens.

    As she waxed lyrical on the above topics, you got a palpable sense of just how much the audience was captivated by her every word, myself very much included.

    Her passion, conviction and warmth made her all the more relatable and easy to be inspired by. Adding poet to the long list of her attributes, she ended the night with one that I unfortunately could not jot down the entirety of. But I will share with you the lines that summarised so beautifully my deepest wish for every woman reading this:

    "May your beauty dawn on you...

    Slow down if you need to, but don't ever stop."

     

    In love and gratitude

                  

    BECOMING UNSTUCK - KELLY'S STORY

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    When I first met Kelly, I was captivated by her shining blue eyes - that were incredibly sad. It seemed to me that she wanted so much to smile, but had perhaps forgotten how. After various interactions at workshops I ran and speaking online, she made the decision to become a Wellness Coaching client of mine. 

    It turned out that Kelly's sadness ran much deeper than I could ever have imagined - she truly believed that she was trapped in both her financial story and her love life. As a result, she had put on weight and was living a life that she felt was out of her control. How many of us can relate to this feeling? It's a dangerous game when we come to believe that we are victims of circumstance.

    The reality is, we're free to recreate our truth in any given moment.

    To begin with, we ensured that every single wellness coaching session resulted in practical steps that Kelly could straight away implement into her life - mind, body and spirit. We also created a strategy for her to take control of her financial situation, so she could see the light at the end of the tunnel. I could noticeably see a change in her from one session to the next, as though the weight of years of worrying had literally lifted from her shoulders. It's often the case that the small steps we take on our wellness journey seem completely unsurmountable at first. Afterwards, we wonder why it took us so long in the first place!

    Her self confidence had plummeted and this beautiful goddess had convinced herself to stay in a loveless marriage, where her every move was controlled and questioned. This is not to say that relationships are always easy, or that they should be given up on at the first sign of trouble. However, I am a firm believer that when your significant other needs to control how often you leave the house and becomes anxious when you're not there, it's time to strongly reconsider things. Kelly had been to marriage counselling and communicated her desires for more freedom, but the longer she stayed, the more her life became less her own. She showed such tremendous strength and self belief when finally, she moved out. We discussed every step of the separation, and it can be truly helpful to have an objective third party by your side during difficult transitions in life.

    Kelly continues to come to my live events, and every time I see her, I am blown away by how different this woman is to the one I first met! She has cut her hair and changed its colour. She's lost weight and her eyes are glowing. She lives happily alone, comes and goes as she pleases. Previously not a risk taker, she now has a trip booked to India and Everest base camp!

    Let me be clear, none of this was easy for Kelly, and these changes happened over the course of 6 months. The main reason I would say she managed to change the direction of her life was commitment to showing up - to each wellness coaching session and to herself. 

    Holding space for and thus witnessing such change is my purpose, passion, vision and mission.

    Let me guide you through the turbulent waters in your own life. I have my own coach, and live first hand the empowering nature of this relationship.

    This week only, I'm offering 20% off my wellness coaching packages. 

    To accept this offer, reach out to me via email: fiorella@thenourishinggoddess.com

    We'll lock in a free 30 minute, no obligation Skype session for us to get to know each other and for me to explain the process and packages.

    This offer ends Sunday, the 26th of February.

    I look forward to connecting with you.

    In love and gratitude

                                                  

    NOURISHED WITH LEANNE HALL

    Speak to yourself as if you were your own best friend.

    Leanne Hall is an experienced integrative psychologist with a focus on prevention, self-care and sustainable health. She specialises in body image and weight issues, depression, anxiety and eating disorders. 

    Leanne has been a clinician and researcher at the University of Sydney and a lecturer at the University of New South Wales. A qualified personal trainer and nutrition coach, you may recognise her as a TV presenter. She is the mind and body expert for Channel 10's The Living Room and regularly appears on Studio 10 as their go-to health expert.

    During this very personal conversation, Leanne draws on her own life experience as a mother, wife and business woman about to launch her first book. We discuss:

    • The importance of self care as a tool to manage our ‘inner critic’
    • Womankind’s struggle with body image and eating disorders
    • Our eternal search for happiness and a sense of being ‘enough’
    • Leanne’s top tips to manage stress and anxiety
    • How to guide young women through their own struggles
    • Being single on Valentine’s Day and celebrating our relationship with ourselves

    Next month sees the launch of 'Head First, Health Fast', a book that finally covers a smart approach to outwitting body issues and achieving sustainable health and wellness. 

    For more details, please visit: www.leannehall.com.au

    Thank you so much for listening! I'd love to know ONE thing you're taking away from episode in the comments below.

    In love and gratitude

                                  

    SO, IS THIS ADVICE WORTH LISTENING TO? IF NOT... IGNORE IT.

    I have a somewhat exciting confession to make... after a 2016 that had the potential to leave me shrivelled up like an old, brown Autumn leaf on the sidewalk - I've slowly started dipping my toe into the dating game! It's terrifying, hilarious, cringe worthy and exhilarating all at once. Mostly, because I've come to realise that relationships are your biggest opportunity for personal growth. No book, conference, webinar or podcast will crack you wide open or make you snap shut faster than entering into a relationship, of any kind, with another human being.

    It's come to my attention that I automatically not only accept but expect to be treated like far less than the goddess that I am. And when I am actually shown respect, I start to wonder what I've done wrong. Oy vey! What a discovery to make... 

    When recounting about a recent 8 hour date to a relatively new friend, I received some feedback that really blew me away. "Oh I SEE now! It's not them, it's YOU!" Ouch. "YOU'RE the reason why you're still single!" Double ouch. 

    After debriefing with a soul sister who has been in my life for longer than 5 minutes, she gave me some advice that I would like to share with you today about inner circles. 

    Write down on a piece of paper the FIVE people whose opinion means the most to youGo ahead, I'll wait.

    My recommendation is keep this piece of paper in your wallet, or jot it down into Evernote. Refer to it anytime unwarranted advice comes your way. If it's not from one of these five people, and it doesn't ring true - ignore it. Pictured above is #1 on my list. Sister from another mister for close to 10 years, this woman knows me better than I know myself at times. What she says, is definitely taken on board.

    Because my entire life does not need to be approved by everyone. And you know, I don't want you to feel obligated to weigh in on every issue I ever deal with. I'm not a big fan of preaching, I deeply dislike the concept of conversion. I much prefer pure love. 

    It's been a long standing habit of mine however to be a people pleaser (READ: I just want to be loved!). I still put too much stock into what others think of me and my decisions. However I've recently gone through such a detox of people who do not have my best interests at heart and who have shown their true colours as humans and friends. And I feel so much more in alignment as a result. Because my entire life is exactly that - mine. And I'm the one who has to ultimately make the heavy choices.

    The more we trust in ourselves, the more in alignment we will be with our inner circle.

    In love and gratitude

                      

    Tell someone that they're part of your inner circle, press share below xo

     

    NOURISHED WITH THE SOULFUL WOMAN

    The Soulful Woman

    Hello beautiful goddess and welcome to 2017!

    In November last year, I taught at a meditation retreat in stunning Byron Bay, taking some much needed time out once it had finished. I took myself on a day trip to the quaint town of Bangalow to spend some time looking at the unique stores there and mingle with the locals. It was upon entering the local health food store, that my heart strings told me I was in need of a new oracle deck - for my clients of course ;)

    Out popped at once the most stunning cards I had ever come across, and I've seen a few in my time as a coach! They were totally in line with my business and me as a person. On the back of the box were phrases like "nourishing energy", "nurture your feminine soul" and "trust in divine timing". It was like a home coming of the soul for me! The box itself was a deep, lush red - my favourite colour. The name of the deck was what sold it to me though, "The Soulful Woman". I paid for them with gusto and drove back to my beachside bungalow to test drive them.

    Since then, I use them not only for my own guidance, but in each coaching session with my clients. The language and the images are so beautifully, yet powerfully crafted, that they are an amazing vessel of change. I knew once I witnessed this phenomenon with my clients that I had to reach out to the creators, Shushann Movsessian and Gemma Summers. 

    In episode 2 of the NOURISHED podcast, we dive pretty deep into a plethora of issues close to the heart of womankind such as stepping into feminine flow and seeing it as a source of strength, that feeling we all have of 'not being enough' and the quest of the modern woman for connection and nourishment PLUS their top tips for 2017.

    You can find out more about The Soulful Woman and the guidance cards here: www.facebook.com/thesoulfulwoman

    Please access the podcast here:

    Thank you so much for listening.

    In love and gratitude

                              

    NOURISHED: Official Podcast Launch!

    Moonology

    Hello beautiful goddess

    You've asked for it, and I've listened. The monthly interviews are fun to watch, but you wanted to be able to listen to them in the car, at the gym, on your commute home. 

    It is with much excitement that I officially launch my podcast, NOURISHED! In episode 1, I have the honour of speaking with journalist and astrologer, Yasmin Boland. This woman has some serious knowledge about the planets and how they affect our health, mood, relationships and work life. 

    Yasmin has recently released a best selling book through Hay House Publishing called 'Moonology'. During my time in London, I went to a workshop Yasmin was running to coincide with the launch of the book, and participated in manifesting some New Moon intentions. Each and every one of them came to pass, and our time together was a blessing in disguise, as it helped me to navigate the tumultuous waters in a stormy sea. 

    Moonology

    My wish is that our podcast together provides you with some deep insight into how you can begin to use to the power of the Moon each month to release what doesn't serve you, in order for the new and the fresh to manifest.

    You can find out more about Yasmin and order a copy of her wonderful book at at http://moonologybook.moonology.com/

    Please access the podcast here:

    I'd love to hear from you in the comments below! Do you prefer a podcast to videos? How will you begin to connect with the moon in a practical yet meaningful way?

    Thank you so much for listening!

    In love and gratitude

                 

    3 TOOLS FOR EMPOWERED CHANGE

    “A woman should be two things: who and what she wants.”

    - Coco Chanel

    Hello beautiful goddess

    Tonight's Super Moon in Taurus is an opportunity to re-evaluate your goals and how you want to achieve them. Taurus is a sign of stability and practicality, so a wonderful night for stillness to reflect within.

    After my recent Byron Bay retreat, run together with my mentor Tom Cronin of The Stillness Project, I took some much needed time off at the end to do exactly that - reflect within. Byron is known for it's tranquil and healing energy, and I felt held so beautifully by the sound of waves and the gorgeous weather. After one of the most tumultuous years of my life, I wanted to let go of so much that at times, threatened to drown me in a sea of sorrow.

    I'd like to share with you 3 tools I used in my down time to shake off the past and move forward with confidence, ready for 2017 that is quite literally around the corner!

    1. Call Back Your Power

    Danielle LaPorte, author of The Desire Map, is my go to guru for all things spirit and business. On a recent podcast, she shared that whenever she moves out of a home, she smudges the whole space and then declares "I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole. I am complete." Danielle then repeats this mantra until she feels all of her power back in her body, ready to move on to the new place.

    I went about this slightly differently and imagined all of the homes I have lived in this year, and thanks to my supportive network of friends and family, there have been quite a few...! I visualised any energy stores that I have left behind at the different places coming back into my body, one by one... I cannot begin to describe what a powerful experience this was, and how I truly felt  much more energised. Continue to repeat this mantra until you feel yourself full from the inside out.

    2. Write It Out

    When a relationship ends, there is often so much left unsaid and even when closure does happen it can often feel unsatisfying if common ground isn't reached. I took a deep breath on the front porch of the beach house I was staying at and wrote two letters: one to my ex husband, and one to my former London lover. They both started off with Dear X, and that is where their similarities started, and ended.

    The first letter was more slowly written, full of sadness and disappointment that had built up over 6 years. The second letter was written furiously, mostly in capital letters and with - a lot of swear words. The sadness and the anger were both emotions that I needed to acknowledge, to release and finally to transcend. By the time I signed off both letters, I felt a huge weight lifting off my shoulders, and I truly felt that on some level they had both heard what I had to say.

    What happened next was fascinating... the letter to my ex husband burned slowly and steadily, as if the sadness and tears were still lingering on the pages. The letter to my former lover literally burst into flames in the kitchen sink before my very eyes. Whatever the reason for the difference in styles, I went back outside feeling lighter and freer than I have all year!

    3. Call It In

    When my Wellness Coaching clients ask how they can call in a new love into their lives, I always recommend writing a soul mate wish list. Write down the qualities that you seek in a partner, no less than 10, and notice how it makes you feel to see your dreams come alive on paper.

    I had completed this exercise many years before meeting my ex husband, and he didn't exactly match a lot of what I wrote, which should have been a sign. With the former list now burnt in the kitchen sink also (it's truly a miracle that beach house didn't burn down!), I set about writing a fresh, new one. The very first item on that list is kindness and gentleness when speaking to me - as much and as often as possible. I have had enough of being yelled at by angry men, a pattern that I previously continued to attract and am no longer willing to accept. 

    The lesson now is to treat myself what that same level of kindness and gentleness first. Keep this also in mind when writing your list. How are you treating yourself presently that would invite another person to do the same?

    I completed all three parts in the one long afternoon, and then had a very quiet night in to recalibrate all of the learning and healing that took place. You're very welcome to do the same, or take them on in bite size pieces at a time. 

    My greatest hope is that these tools bring about empowered change in your life, beautiful goddess.

    I would LOVE to hear from you in the comments below, and I vow to personally respond to each one. Have you tried any of the tools out? How did you feel afterwards? 

    Know anyone who needs some empowered change? Please share this post with them.

    In love and gratitude

                                     

    MY GIFT TO YOU, BEAUTIFUL GODDESS

    "The power of the heart

    is to be connected with who you are

    at the deepest level"

    Hello beautiful goddess

    Do you find it difficult to get out of your busy mind, where thoughts whirl around like a tornado? Do you use your mind a lot in your line of work, and find it difficult to listen to the guidance of your heart? Have you been through a tumultuous period and want to let go of your burdens?

    If so, I wrote this meditation especially for you!

    Teaching meditation is an absolute honour, and although recording my meditation album fulfilled a lifelong dream, I have been wanting to find a way to say THANK YOU, to you - my precious audience.

    Once a month, I will be recording a free guided meditation for you to weave into your meditation practice. 

    Inspired by the documentary 'The Power of the Heart'this meditation invites you to make that journey of connection from the head to the heart, in a safe and sacred space.

    I really hope that you enjoy it precious one, and find some time in your hectic schedule to be with yourself, by yourself, for yourself.

    I'd love to hear from you in the comments below, and let me know how you found the meditation and if you'd like me to continue with this monthly series! I personally respond to every comment I receive xx

    HEALING YOUR HEALTH PRACTICALLY: AN INTERVIEW WITH TABITHA MCINTOSH

    "I try very hard to teach people about their bodies, and to be a friend to their own unique circumstances."

    - Tabitha McIntosh

    Tabitha McIntosh is a respected Naturopath, clinical Nutritionist and educator. Tabitha is founder & director of Awaken Your Health in Woollahra, Sydney - where she has run her own private clinical practice for over a decade: integrating Naturopathic healing principles with the latest scientific research to educate and empower her clients. A focus of her practice is working with women, couples, families and infants, educating around the hidden dangers of environmental chemicals, implementing therapeutic diets and using food as medicine to help her clients reach their full potential.

    I refer a lot of my clients and friends to Tabitha, and love her practical approach to health, wellbeing and personal growth.

    In this interview, we discuss:

    + Tabitha's own wellness journey that inspired her to be the practitioner she is today

    + The intrinsic relationship between emotions and illness

    + The huge role that self-worth plays in a healthy lifestyle, and the boundaries necessary to do so

    + How to make better food choices, without beating yourself up 

    + Why iron stores are essential for women's health

    + The connection between gut issues and how we 'digest' life

    + Tabitha's own tips for stressed working women and how she ensures self-care in her own life

    You can find out more about Tabitha's practice here: www.awakenyourhealth.com.au

    **Apologies for the frozen image after minute 22, but at least you can still listen to us, like a podcast!**

    I'd love to hear from you in the comments below, beautiful goddess. What is ONE practical tip that you've taken away from our interview?

    In love and gratitude

                                             

    HOW I SURVIVED BREAKING POINT

    “I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath
    Scared to rock the boat and make a mess
    So I sat quietly, agreed politely
    I guess that I forgot I had a choice
    I let you push me past the breaking point
    I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything”

    -       Katy Perry, ‘Roar’

    This post has been brewing for a while, percolating in my body at a cellular level, needing to be told. 2016 has been one of the hardest years of my life – not the worst, but involved so many swift changes that I am only now just catching my breath. This has also been the case for many of my nearest and dearest, and as much as I would love to quote astrological reasoning’s, in my case I feel it had been a long time coming.

    Amazingly, I’ve been able to stay focused on you, my beautiful audience and coach my clients with all the presence I was able to muster from the depths of my soul. When you’re an industry leader or someone’s mentor, it can be hard to step into vulnerability and admit – “I’m human, I make mistakes, I have no idea what I’m doing either”. It hasn’t been the kick ass year for my business I had envisioned, no TV appearances or as many live events as I had planned, but I’ll acknowledge that the old needed to leave to make way for the new.

    In March, I left my partner of six years and husband for two. It had become so very evident to me that we were wildly moving into very different directions and energetic vibrations. I deserved better, and quite frankly, so did he. I’m often asked why I stayed so long if I was unhappy, and the truth is encapsulated by one word: fear. Fear of being single, of never having children, of my financial situation, of being with him, of being without him, having to move, who would have custody of our fur baby etc etc etc.

    I remember hearing of business coach Jenn Scalia’s story of divorce and financial debt. She took her son, and moved in with her parents. After being down and out for some time, she pulled herself out of the hole and created an empire that now earns six figures. Something in this tale really resonated with me on a deep level, and it also struck the fear of goddess in me… I did not want to lose it all. I was content with a life that looked stunning on Instagram, but felt hollow in the flesh. I knew that on some level that would be me one day, but I ignored that little voice inside, too afraid to play big and step into my power.

    All women I speak to when they are breaking up from a relationship tell me that on some level, they knew this was not the right person for them. Denial is a very handy tool that our ego loves to use to keep us safe in the short term, stuck in the long term. It’s terrifying for me to think that so many women stay through physical and verbal abuse, drug and alcohol addiction or even just completely different value systems for years, decades or the rest of their natural life. I also stayed because I didn’t think I deserved any better. Yep, The Nourishing Goddess, preacher of self-love, thought “maybe this is as good as it gets”.

    It didn’t get better though. I then went straight from the frying pan, into the fire by moving in with a man shortly after arriving in London. When you’re starved of affection, attention and appreciation, as Katy Perry sings “I stood for nothing, so I feel for everything”. What started out as a passionate and intense courtship, turned into my greatest lesson in life thus far. I would never advise a client to enter a serious relationship straight after leaving a marriage – ever. I still can’t explain to myself why I did, other than it felt right, it felt destined. People in spiritual circles talk about soul contracts, two people who make an agreement with each other before even meeting. We could talk for hours about any subject, he made me feel like the most beautiful woman alive and was on a very similar path to me – or so it seemed.

    I’ve never blogged about this before, because as mentioned, I’m still desperately searching inside to find out how things got out of hand so quickly. Soon I was being asked to cook three meals a day, and yelled at or admonished if it wasn’t the case. The pressure being placed on me financially was absurd, and it felt as though my clients were paying for his lavish choices. The constant fighting that eventually became par for the course and alcohol abuse on his behalf was reminding me all too much of my failed marriage. It took him physically shaking my head with anger, because he didn’t like how I had spoken to a driver as we crossed to the road, for me to become fed up. How had this become my life?!

    This was not the clean break I had needed. This was not the life of health, wealth and love I envisioned. My nervous system was shot, and anxiety attacks were occurring on a daily basis. I grabbed the bull by the horns, and moved out. Admitting this failure to myself was hard, I had really wanted this to work out, as so many women do. Admitting that many lines I had never allowed a man to cross had been crossed. How could I possibly call myself a Wellness Coach and advocate of women, if I had allowed this to become my reality?

    To make matters worse, I desperately wanted to go home to Sydney and recover from everything. There were no flights home for nearly three weeks as Londoner’s were all flying over during school holidays. I cannot express my gratitude enough to all the friends who opened their homes, couches and spare beds to me during that time. My worst nightmare had finally come to pass: I was broke, getting divorced and fleeing the most toxic relationship of my life. I told this to a soul sister of mine who said, “congratulations, you’ve lived through your worst fear and survived”. This realisation hit me like a lightning bolt – this was a gift in disguise. Even diamonds need immense pressure to be created, and this was my baptism by fire.

    So here I am, living with my parents now and feeling like the phoenix who has risen from the ashes. I’ve found a strength inside myself that I never knew existed, and can feel a much richer, more rewarding life slowly taking shape before me. Self-love and my emotional and physical wellbeing have taken centre stage, as I walk my talk more than I ever have before. Once again, the gratitude I feel to my Sydney tribe cannot be expressed more deeply, as I have discovered who my true friends are. There are those who have loved, supported, listened and advised me for hours on end. There are those who have betrayed, judged, lost interest or connection with me. Rather than approach these changes with fear, I feel blessed for learning the truth of where I stand.

    It is my hope that my story will inspire those of you in an unhappy, abusive or toxic relationship to really reflect on your hearts desires. I no longer want to attract angry men who abuse alcohol – this prototype has well and truly cleared from my life. Each day my aim is to become more gentle and loving of myself, with the knowledge that this will come back to me tenfold. 

    I'd love to hear from you in the comments below, as I finally take the leap into sharing my truth with you, beautiful goddess.

    In love and gratitude

                                          

    MY GIFT TO YOU, BEAUTIFUL GODDESS

    Hello beautiful goddess

    Saturday night we experienced a very powerful Full Moon eclipse.

    According to Mystic Mama: "We can expect some lightning strikes going off here especially in our relationships, but likely for the good – meaning we may be disclosing what has been holding us back or out of alignment with our heart."

    You may have experienced some real shifts this past week, leading up toSaturday - I know I did! A sense of letting go of all that does not serve me, a time to let go of 'the story' and make room for new, fresh energy into life.

    Teaching meditation is an absolute honour, and although recording my meditation album fulfilled a lifelong dream, I have been wanting to find a way to say THANK YOU, to you - my precious audience.

    Once a month, I will be recording a free guided meditation for you to weave into your meditation practice. 

    Inspired by the Full Moon, this meditation invites you to release all that doesn't serve you from every single cell in your body.

    I really hope that you enjoy it precious one, and find some time in your hectic schedule to be with yourself, by yourself, for yourself.

    I'd love to hear from you in the comments below, and let me know how you found the meditation and if you'd like me to continue with this monthly series! I personally respond to every comment I receive xx

    LET ME REMIND YOU

    Hello beautiful goddess

    I'd like to keep things simple this week, and further inspire you on your wellness journey.

    Putting everyone's needs before your own, is not self-care.

    Never speaking your truth out of fear of other's reactions, is not self-care.

    Not booking that doctor's appointment or haircut, is not self-care.

    Filling every spare moment in your calendar with no free time, is not self-care.

    Using food, alcohol, drugs, sex or shopping to feel whole, is not self-care.

    Self-care is: loving every part of yourself, even the parts that you'd like to improve.

    Self-care is: eating your meals in a calm and mindful environment as often as possible.

    Self-care is: saying no to relationship's that are abusive on any level.

    Self-care is: inviting your light to shine and playing bigger than the ego allows you to.

    Self-care is: living a life where you nourish the goddess within.

    How can you take better care of yourself this week?

    Write your self-care promise in the comments below, and I'll keep you accountable.

    I personally read and respond to every comment I receive.

    PS Thank you for your patience and support this year as my life has gone through several growth spurts and changes. I feel honoured to have women like you in my life xx

    In love and gratitude

                                                                                                    

    HOW TO BE MORE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF

    "Only the gentle are ever really strong." - James Dean

    Hello beautiful goddess

    When was the last time you apologised to yourself, and meant it...? As women, we can be incredibly harsh and aggressive with ourselves internally, especially when things aren't quite panning out the way we had planned them.

    2016 has been a year of huge change for me: love, loss, uncertainty - but most of all growth. Interestingly, this has also been the case for so many people I know. Death, divorce, disease, distress all seem to be going around in spades. This also seems to be occurring on the world's stage as well - the micro and macrocosms reflecting each other.

    After almost three months in the UK, I'm back home in Sydney. Things didn't quite pan out the way I had expected, and I was in danger of treating myself worse than I would anybody else. The temptation was there to berate myself endlessly with the "why", "how come" and "I should have" tapes on a loop. Instead, after an insightful conversation with a close friend of mine, I've moved into deeper and deeper levels of gentleness with myself.

    In this week's video blog, I share with you my top 3 strategies on how to be more gentle with yourself. 

    Thank you so much for staying strong and
    committed to your wellness journey.

    You are a goddess who deserves to be
    nourished at every level.

    I would LOVE to hear from you in the comments below -

    Does my story resonate with you in any way?

    How do you treat yourself?

    Please share this video with any soul sister who could benefit from it -

    it's my mission to help inspire the healing of womankind xo

    THE EPIDEMIC OF THE STRESSED CORPORATE WOMAN

    "We need to have that healthy balance of the masculine and the feminine - that's essential. Too much feminine, nothing happens. Too much masculine, it's misguided action. It's really all about creating that balance, within ourselves."

    - Sarah McGahan

    Sarah McGahan is a spiritual mentor for women wanting to reconnect with their feminine essence. This is something Sarah can relate all to well with as once upon a time she found herself working high up in the masculine driven corporate world, feeling completely disconnected from herself, disillusioned, unfulfilled and suffering from numerous illnesses that had her in and out of hospital for 18 months.

    Finally Sarah decided she’d had enough and moved to Bali. She now provides intuitive coaching and group programs to women, wanting to reconnect with themselves and uncover who they truly are.

    I'm so excited to share this interview with you, as I'm lucky enough to also call this amazing goddess one of my closest friends.

    In this interview, we discuss:


    + The epidemic of the 'stressed corporate woman' archetype

    + Why women feel the need to be more masculine to get ahead in business

    + Sarah's own story of giving up a career and relationship that was Instagram-able, for a life of purpose and passion

    + Tapping into what a woman's heart wants, rather than what the mind thinks we should be doing

    + Practical self-care rituals that all women should try

    + Feeling safe to explore your feminine side on a deeper level, without coming across as too 'woo woo'

    + How to support your partner to come into his masculine more

    + The roles of the provider/protector and supporter/carer in a romantic relationship

    + Confusing femininity with weakness, and finding strength in gentleness

    + The shift into conscious leadership in corporations around the world

    + So much more


    The book that Sarah highly recommends is "Intimate Communion" by David Deida: http://deida.info/intimate-communion/

    Get your copy of Sarah's free e-book, "5 Rituals to Re-Connect with your Natural Feminine Essence", here: http://bit.ly/5RitualsRe-Connect

    Thank you so much for staying strong and committed to your wellness journey. You are a goddess who deserves to be nourished at every level.

    In love and gratitude

                   

    EVERYDAY SELF-CARE: AN INTERVIEW WITH KAREN PETHARD

    Combardis Elixers

    "You are absolutely worth it.

    If you're not feeling worth it, or prepared to spend time on yourself,

    how can you possibly think you can help other people?"

    - Karen Pethard

    Hello beautiful goddess

    Essential oil sprays are such a beautiful yet simple way to create a sacred space in your home or office instantly. Karen Pethard has created some of my favourite mists through her company, Combardis Elixirs. She has sponsored many of my workshops, as I truly adore sharing her 'mindfulness in a bottle' with my goddesses!

    Having embarked on formal study in the areas of energetic healing and aromatherapy, she is passionate about living a holistic, authentic and health giving life. Karen worked for many years in marketing and product development for large FMCG companies. Now a mother, and wife, she created this beautiful company to help to calm the mind, balance the emotions, energise and empower her audience.

    I'm really excited to share this interview with you today, as Karen shares her story of being a woman, wife, mother and entrepreneur. 

    In this interview, you will learn:

    + How to use the search of passion and purpose as a self-care tool

    + The importance of nurturing yourself when you're looking after everyone else

    + Which essential oils you can use to bring about focus or relaxation in an office environment

    + The power of combining mists with affirmations to create a moment of mindfulness

    + Ways in which to unwind after work that don't involve that cheeky glass of wine

    + Morning rituals that Karen herself uses to balance the demands of her daily life

    + Why you really need to feel worthy of putting yourself first as a woman, in order to lead a fulfilling life and take care of others

    + And so much more

    Wanting to experience the magic of Combardis Elixirs?

    Use the code GODDESS to receive 20% off Karen's gorgeous range of mists here: www.combardis.com.au

    Thank you so much for staying strong and committed to your wellness journey. You are a goddess who deserves to be nourished at every level.

    In love and gratitude

    Fiorella